5 Expert Tips for Better Orgasms: Enhance Your Pleasure Today
Orgasms are great and great for you! There are many health benefits to orgasms, including pain relief (for menstrual cramps, migraines, etc.), stress relief, improved mood, immune function, sexual function, and a reduced risk of heart disease. Orgasms can vary from brief bursts of pleasure to extended moments of climax. By experimenting and exploring what works for you and your body, you can enhance your own orgasmic experience and that of your partner(s). Here are five tips to help improve your orgasmic experience.
1. Practice on Yourself for Better Orgasms
This is the first and most important way to help enhance your experience. No one knows your body better than you and practicing/exploring the heightening of pleasure in your own body is a great way to improve your orgasmic experience. If you’re comfortable, have your partner watch what you do so they can mimic it. You don’t even have to give yourself an orgasm to teach them the technique (but if you do, all the better!). Do the same with them. Watch the pressure your partner applies, the speed at which they stroke themselves, see what other parts of their body they stimulate while they are doing it, etc. I know it can be uncomfortable exploring one’s own body, but the more you do it, the less uncomfortable it becomes. This experience is FOR YOU and no one else has to see it happening. Be curious with yourself - you might be surprised at what you unpack.
2. Slow Down for More Intense Orgasms
So many people rush to the orgasm because it feels good, or they just want to finish quickly. However the build up to orgasm is what makes the orgasm so powerful. Teasing each other, getting close to orgasm and backing off, and really taking your time are all going to enhance the orgasmic experience. The slow build warms up the body and can make the release feel more explosive and intense. Instead of rushing, take your time to savor the experience together.
3. Incorporate Toys and Lube
Using sex toys doesn’t mean your partner is inadequate. Toys stimulate in new and different ways, allowing your partner to conserve energy and be more present in your orgasm. Experiment with different toys, taking your time to tease each other’s bodies. You can use toys in one area while stimulating or penetrating another. Toys can add fun to your sexual experience, and there’s no need to feel ashamed for wanting to use them. Lubrication is also crucial. Lube enhances comfort, sensation, and performance, making orgasms more enjoyable. Use lube with or without toys to make the build-up more pleasurable.
4. Experiment with Different Sensations
Playing with different sensations can build anticipation and enhance the orgasmic experience. Try pinching, spanking, biting, using feather dusters, fur gloves, gentle caressing, licking, applying heat or cool, etc. You can also try using different sensations as a build up, or try adding a new sensation as your partner is beginning to climax (i.e. as they’re starting their climax, pinch a nipple, tug on the ball sack, stick a finger in the anus - all with consent, of course). These sensations can intensify or elongate the orgasm. You can also stimulate your partner shortly after their first orgasm to try for a second, third, fourth, etc. Exploring your own body will help you understand the time you need between stimulations for multiple orgasms.
5. Use Fantasy to Enhance Orgasms
Fantasizing alone or together can improve the orgasmic experience. Many activities we fantasize about aren’t practical or necessarily desirable in real life, but imagining them can amplify arousal and enhance orgasms. Fantasizing doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy the present moment - it’s a way to play with your body in your mind. Sharing fantasies can be a fun way to connect as a couple, tease each other, and build anticipation, ultimately enhancing the orgasm.
Some of these tips may not be new to you, and that’s okay! Most people fall into a routine for achieving orgasms, so this serves as a reminder to shake things up. If some of this is new to you, take your time! Start with one or two tips and see how they impact your orgasm, then add more. Remember, anticipation and build-up significantly influence the type of orgasm you have. Taking your time to relish each other’s bodies and build arousal will play a big role in your orgasmic experience.
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